Daughter will go potty at preschool at potty time but won’t go at home, anyone’s house, or on a public toilet.?

She’ll be 4 in July. I’ve tried underwear. She always tells me AFTER she goes and the pee is already running down her leg. I got tired of having to put towels or changing pads on the furniture, car seat, and floor so I put her back in pull ups. She gets so fiesty that she’ll throw a complete tantrum and hit her head on the wall while on the little potty or the porcelain on the big potty while her toddler ring is on the seat so she doesn’t fall in. I should add that she was a preemie and does things at her own pace. I was hoping she’d at least try to start training by now. I never forced this on her since she’s been developmentally delayed since birth and didn’t walk until she was almost 2. Her preschool teachers don’t seem to be concerned, as I’ve shared this with them. They suggested jelly beans or M&M’s…one for trying, two for peeing, and three for pooping. She’s never successfully pooped on the potty. Her 4 year wellness appointment is in July, but I’m thinking about calling the pediatrician now. Your thoughts?
She doesn’t have a bladder problem as she can be dry for hours at a time, go, and then tell me.

Could my son have a developmental problem?

My son is now 3 years old and is still not potty trained. I tried at 2 years, then 2.5 years and he didn’t want to sit on the potty for longer then a minute. Now from the past month, atleast he sits on the potty when I tell him too,. If he has pooped, it may be 1 out of 8 times that he will do it in the toilet. Otherwise it’s always in his pull ups. I even tried underwear for him, but he just wets them all the time instead of telling us he has to go.
Is this a problem, our pediatrician says to wait it out until 4 years before we get worried about potty training, But I do worry when i look at other kids around 2 to 2;5 years already learning. Another thing is my son learned to crawl at 9 months, a little delayed. He took his first itty bitty steps around 13.5 months and then actually walked at 15.5 months. That too was a little late for us because we saw all kids around him at daycare, our friends circle all walking aroung 12 or 13 months. And now he is still not potty trained at 3 years.
I know certain symptoms of ADHD in toddlers is the child wanders and cannot concentrate on one thing fully. I have been trying to notice his behavior more recently and would like to ask if you think it may be a sign? He always tells me to put on Mickey mouse clubhouse in evening and it’s on, he watches it 10 mins, then he looks at what i am doing and talks to me, asks me things. then he wants to play with cars and i tell him i will shut tv off, he says no he is watching it. is this too much at once within a 10 min timeframe or is it normal child behavior?

Need help with my four year old boy, why wont he stop pooping his pants?

I appreciate all answers, and dont want to sound like a know-it-all, but I dont need the typical “maybe he’s constipated?” or “just leave it alone he’ll get the hang of it when he’s ready..” I have tried everything from rewards, charts, prizes, praise, laying off and seeing if he’ll do it on his own eventually….and more recently taking a toy or privilege away (as an alternative way of learning-not punishment) Im well aware that punishment of any kind is known to “backfire” but in my eyes so do the prizes in this case, because if there isn’t a prize waiting for him, that he can hold while hes trying btw=poo immediately in the pants.
This child is one that I’ve nannied for, since he was 10 months, so although Im not his mom….I am with him mon-fri, almost 12 hrs a day, so I feel like his “other mom.” Around the time he turned 15 months he had a new 3 month old brother too! We started training after he had a tiny bit of time to adjust to the baby, and not the other way around. I know some kids have issues when starting to train and then a baby is born. I felt it was too early to start, but mom was so gun-ho and excited I wasnt about to refuse to try it. I want to say around 18 months? decided to “introduce” him to the dreaded potty dance. (I dont mean to sound negative as potty training is supposed to be a life experience and although stressful shouldnt be something that has driven me to the point of utter disgust and insanity.) He started off with the typical toddler curiosity and excitement with his NEW POTTY! I knew he wasnt ready. I knew that its exciting for the child as well as adult to not be in diapers anymore. I also knew that just because an 18 month old can pee a couple times a day on a potty to get a sticker or candy…… does NOT mean he is READY to start this process. When he would poop prior to training, he never showed any sign of discomfort and would actually cry if I tried changing his diaper. If given the chance he would not be phased with sitting in his own doodoo….for as long as possible. Anyways. We did pull-ups for a while…….a while meaning a couple months? These were all moms’s decisions not mine haha! Big boy underwear time!!! Again he was very excited. Keep in mind he was 95 % of the time doing pee, not poop, on the pot. So you can imagine MY excitement the day I came in and got the “good news.” We were always at the house so luckily we had lots of time to practice. No stress on him, gentle reminders every 1/2 hour or so, and any time I saw signs that he might have to poo, Id say it looks like you might have a poop coming yay! Lets grab your (favorite book/toy) and try together!!! “I dont want to.” 5 minutes later im changing his “big boys” and mom has me wash them every time so thats a blast.
Once in a while we’d get lucky, although it would require forcing him to sit (if we knew it was comming.) Like, after some poop had already been pushed into his underwear. Point being, he never, ever WANTED to, and I’d get to the point of bribing just to get him to try. Soon, peeing became the same ordeal too.
To give some credit however, he would have some “good streaks,” where he would seem like he snapped out of it and sometimes would go a whole week with no accidents. These were the times where I would just be fed up and stop caring and just change him every time, no potty talk. I figured it was because he missed getting all the attention with having accidents and nagging reminders, but the next week he’d be back to accidents all day again. Nothing was never consistent.

read over 20 different books. I’ve talked with his pediatrician at doctor visits. I’ve been lead teacher in toddler I & II classrooms, as well as pre-school &pre-k classrooms. I have taken 4 years of early childhood ed. towards my BA degree…….Just stating that I have successfully potty trained kids that were 15 months old, up to 4 or 5 for almost 6 years before nannying for this family. So what am I doing wrong? I know that there needs to be consistency. Mom and I are on the same page, but not the dad. I find out “daddy still let me ride my bike even though i pooped my pants.” Aside from this issue he gives into him as soon as he starts his whining and screaming, with everything.

Now, he is 4 and younger brother is 2.5. The y brother started training in Oct. and sleeps through the night DRY. At first a couple accidents (normal) but has been accident free since then. Also, he poops his pants 6 times a day sometimes, and is on mirilax 2x a day per order of the doc, so he is not constipated. I have tested his behavior with cause-effect stratagies. Most recently, offer small dollar priced prizes, (wrapped in tissue. if he doesnt see anything he likes, he wouldnt bother trying and crap his pants) He all of a sudden was a poop machine, trying to poop every h

toddler is having trouble using potty at caregivers…advise please!?

My daughter, who will be 2 1/2 at the end of March has started to potty train with me this past weekend (i was off work for 3 days, and she was showing all the signs of readiness, for sure!) she was so thrilled with herself using the potty when I was home, and only had one accident within her first three days. I brought her to her grandfathers house, who watches her while me and my fiance work. She had an accident that morning, and so he put her in diapers <>. When I got her home, I put her back in her big girl underwear, and we had a seamless evening of potty use, she didnt miss a beat! Then yesterday, she went over there, had an accident and back in diapers she went. I called the pediatrician, who advised me that her being put in and out of diapers is sending a mixed message, and she seems confused. I told him this, and he said her pediatrician is a quack. (My FSIL has a son who sees the same dr., hes fantastic!). I asked him to please keep her in big girl underpants, and that accidents were part of learning. When I picked up her last night, upon seeing me, she asked to use the potty immediately, pulled down her pants, ripped off her diaper and went pee on the potty!! Well, I called to check in today, and of course, shes had 2 accidents. My question is, WHY is she 100% perfect at home, and she cant seem to get the hang of it at grampies. Has 2 days of mixed diapers and under wear mixed her up forever?? He is no longer sticking her in diapers (as far as Im aware), although when my FSIL was taking her son off the bottle, grampie would sneak him one anyone. When he was being taken off the bink, grampie would sneak him one at naptime. I hope he is following my wishes. Does anyone have any experience in a situation like this, and can anyone offer advise? She is SO EXCITED about the potty, and Im feeling overwhelmingly guilty now that I have to work because what we’ve got going on at home is so fantastic, and its just a mess at grampies. Thanks!

not to mention, outside of transitioning the children during these stages, he is AMAZING with the kids. They adore him, and he’s wonderful to watch with them. He is truly a blessing. Just to mention…
Alicia — Every heard the phrase it takes a village to raise a child? Thats what strong families do for one another. Its a favor, certainly, but I know he is wholeheartedly happy to do it. And he’s not so old either…for the record.

Dolly — fantastic suggestion. We let her “christen” her potty for grampies when we first purchased it at home. However, it IS different from her at home potty. I’ll try that

I noticed pink clear fluid like tiny bumps on my toddlers butt, just one side…?

shes been potty trained for 6 months. what could this be from? I plan to take her to her pediatrician.

How do I get my toddler’s first morning pee?

It seems the pediatricians are now requiring your kid’s (6 months old +) first morning pee now for their regular check-ups. My younger boy isn’t even potty training yet. How am I supposed to get his first morning pee? The only thing I can think of is ringing out his diaper (eewwww). Any advice?

Is microscopic hematuria normal in a toddler?

Took daughter(100% potty trained) to pediatrician after she started having accidents out of the blue, really irritable, trouble sleeping, urine that had a foul smell, and low grade fever. Dr. put on antibiotic based on urinalysis that showed microscopic hematuria. Urine culture was negative. Was told urine culture was negative & this happens sometimes. Didn’t get a good explanation since I talked to staff/nurse. Will obviously call back…Should I be concerned or is this normal?

one of my toddler twins takes off her diaper plays and eats her own poop. How can we stop this?

The pediatrician says that potty training her shouldn’t even be thought about until she is 3 because she is a twin and premature. Yet, every time we turn around her diaper is off and we find poop everywhere. last week we found her quietly awake from her nap covered in poop. It took a whole bottle of aveno to get her smelling alright again. It is very concerning that this will make her sick when she eats it. Her twin brother has no probelm with this either.

Toddler Ringworm- use fungus creme or go to the pediatrician for an RX?

My 2-1/2 yr old has ringworm on her bottom. It started off as one spot that I thought was an insect bite.. but now that other red bumps are popping up I see that first one has taken on the look of ringworm. I am treating the 5-6 bumps with the fungus creme you can get from the pharmacy. I am worried that since we are potty training and are in and out of diapers and panties all day, this is going to keep spreading or spread to her siblings. Should I give the over the counter creme a shot? Or should I take her to the pedi and get an antibiotic before it is out of control?

Do i look like pure pure or just pure?

because there is a lack of social cues. They often look for a response and eye contact to identify what to pay attention too.
I chose this article because I have a little brother at home age 4 and he watches a lot of television for his age. Studies always argue that children are watching too much television and that toddlers in the United States watch about one to three hours of television a day. I wanted to understand whether my little was actually learning anything from television, and how bad the affect really is. Now I know that my younger brother is learning very little from television. Not just television, but even the video tapes that are said to be educational. The best way for him to understand things is to talk to someone face-to-face, rather than a pre-recorded video. Children need one on one time for their mental growth and for them to develop. Now that I know this, I will get rid of a lot of these educational videos and start to educate my younger brother myself in person. I feel that actually interaction with a child is nothing but beneficial for the toddler in his development. I will now do this with my younger brother, and hopefully for my children when becoming a father.

please help me , do you think my son having autism ?

hi , i’m a mother of 2 1/2 years old son . i’m very confused and scared right know and doesn’t know what to do ! firstable i thought my son was having speech delay because i was comparing him with my niece who can speak anything and much younger than him and then i told his pediatrician about that and they recommended the early intervention and then we do the evaluation so then come the speech therapist and teacher , the speech therapist said he indeed having speech delay but nothing wrong with his development until recently the teacher coming and do evaluation and she paid attention to him that he like line up the blocks next to each other i do notice that but i think it seem normally since i’m always teaching him that and the teacher ask me if he like to do that and i said sometimes but just particularly item ( like line up car or blocks ) and also my son interesting with particularly around object and he like to spinning them and it concern me about that( after reading about autism from internet ) but my husband said it is normal because he liked to teach him to spinning object ! just for information he also play with his other toys like normal toddler are . we heard about autism before so we ask the teacher about the possibility him having autism but the teacher said that is unlikely for him to have autism because he so affectionate with other people but just to make sure she recommended the psychology’s and occupational therapist and so i’m still waiting to make appointment with them and also something that concern me is he like to get angry and throw himself in the floor when we praise him if he doing good job on something but he fine after seconds ! just information only he fine with motor skill and other development but he just speak 60 words and hardly said 2 word together ! he do pointing and call me if he want something , he jump , climb , watching tv and eating like other people do ! he do toe walking before but i thought just for fun only and i hardly see him do it anymore ! i read so many article on the internet and make me more confused , i even ask the pediatrician but she said not to worry ! but as a mother knowing that my son having even slight possibility having autism is nerve racking and sad so i just want to make sure and please give your opinion about that ? do you think my son having autism or just starting to develop autism ? your opinion really matter to me especially with parent who have a child with autism since you guys more experience than me and thank you so much for your answer ! i’m sorry if i offended anyone by chance !
to she said : he like animal . he have stuffed animal like pig and monkey that he attached to he hug them kiss them and sleep with them . he never flapping his hand he play with other kids in playground like running together with them but in the indoor area he pretty much like playing with himself and i can’t blame him for that since i always home with him by myself so he never learn to share because we hardly even going out ! i do proffesional help probably next week i be able to see them but knowing my son is not in the safe position make me feel a little uncomfortable n couldn’t sleep tight ! maybe i over sensitif about that !

do you think my son have autism?

hi , i’m a mother of 2 1/2 years old son . i’m very confused and scared right know and doesn’t know what to do ! firstable i thought my son was having speech delay because i was comparing him with my niece who can speak anything and much younger than him and then i told his pediatrician about that and they recommended the early intervention and then we do the evaluation so then come the speech therapist and teacher , the speech therapist said he indeed having speech delay but nothing wrong with his development until recently the teacher coming and do evaluation and she paid attention to him that he like line up the blocks next to each other i do notice that but i think it seem normally since i’m always teaching him that and the teacher ask me if he like to do that and i said sometimes but just particularly item ( like line up car or blocks ) and also my son interesting with particularly around object and he like to spinning them and it concern me about that( after reading about autism from internet ) but my husband said it is normal because he liked to teach him to spinning object ! just for information he also play with his other toys like normal toddler are . we heard about autism before so we ask the teacher about the possibility him having autism but the teacher said that is unlikely for him to have autism because he so affectionate with other people but just to make sure she recommended the psychology’s and occupational therapist and so i’m still waiting to make appointment with them and also something that concern me is he like to get angry and throw himself in the floor when we praise him if he doing good job on something but he fine after seconds ! just information only he fine with motor skill and other development but he just speak 60 words and hardly said 2 word together ! he do pointing and call me if he want something , he jump , climb , watching tv and eating like other people do ! he do toe walking before but i thought just for fun only and i hardly see him do it anymore ! i read so many article on the internet and make me more confused , i even ask the pediatrician but she said not to worry ! but as a mother knowing that my son having even slight possibility having autism is nerve racking and sad so i just want to make sure and please give your opinion about that ? do you think my son having autism or just starting to develop autism ? your opinion really matter to me especially with parent who have a child with autism since you guys more experience than me and thank you so much for your answer ! i’m sorry if i offended anyone by chance !
i do look real expert but still trying make appoitment with pschology’s and occoputional therapist probably i be able to see them next week but knowing my son have slight possibility make me worry and couldn’t sleep maybe i just to sensitif about that and it is my first son ! anyway thanks for your opinion !

Why is my 2 1/2 year old son being deliberately defiant about potty training?

My son, who just turned 2 1/2 this week, has been interested in the potty for about 8 months. He started out peeing on his little potty, then progressed to a toddler seat on the big potty. He was very “on and off” about it; sometimes he was interested in going and sometimes he wasn’t. When I noticed that he was staying dry during his nap and sometimes all night, I gave him pull-ups and told him that they were “practice” for big boy underpants, and if he could refrain from getting them dirty or wet, we’d buy him underpants. He kept them dry but almost always pooped in them. The pediatrician suggested that we just go directly to underpants so we tried using them only at home. We made a huge deal about going to buy them and he was very excited. Again, he held his urine but still pooped in them. After a few days, he started peeing in them as well so we just went back to diapers. We never made a big deal about it and always praised him when he took the initiative to use the potty. We also reminded him every few hours about using the potty. We used a sticker chart and bought him a little present every time he filled the chart.

Then, all of the sudden he completely lost interest a couple of months ago. He has stopped keeping his diaper dry at night, refuses to use the potty when we ask, and no longer cares about wearing pull-ups. He knows exactly when he pees or poops because he comes right to one of us and tells us. He seems to think it’s funny. He’ll smile and say, “I pooped in my diaper!” and I’ll say, “Ok, let’s change it, and next time let’s try to do it in the potty.” He just laughs and shakes his head. I don’t know why he’s gone from being interested to purposely avoiding it. He has the vocabulary and comprehension of a 4 year old and he knows that it’s not ok to go in his diaper. We have never pushed him, just encouraged him.

Now my husband wants to start verbally scolding him or punishing him when he pees or poops in his diaper, which I STRONGLY disagree with. I think it will just make him more defiant. I know it’s normal to have backslides when potty training but I’m confused about why he’s clearly choosing not to try.

Thoughts?
He’s an only child and he gets plenty of attention, so I don’t think he’s doing it to get our attention. Also, I always sit with him in the bathroom and wait quietly while he tries. He gets a sticker only when he actually goes.

Potty training regression in 2 3/4 yr. old?

My son started @ 2 w/ reg. potty “just like the guys do it”-We didn’t push him @ all- He just really wanted to & was in regular underwear by 2 1/2 yrs.old. even to bed staying dry all night- He told us all the time if he had to go for 3 mths. straight. Then we came back from vacation where he’d slept in a pack & play and he did have a few accidents then and a few during the day because he didn’t want to stop playing and go-Now the accidents haven’t really stopped-We’ve tried the sticker chart, not making a big deal out of accidents, rewards, etc. He gets mad if I suggest or ask if he needs to go- “NO! I don’t have to go!” We even put him in his toddler bed last week so he could hop out if he needed to go during naptime or nighttime. He started preschool yesterday & parents stayed the first day & I asked him if he wanted to go & try the new potty-”NO”-teacher tells me he’ll see other kids & will want to go. What good advice can you tell me? Should I call his pediatrician yet?

Having trouble potty training my almost 4 year old son… help!?

My son will be 4 in a little over a month. He will sometimes pee on the potty, but that is it! I have already switched him to underwear all day. I only let him wear pull ups to bed cause the pediatrician says bed wetting is common for quite awhile still. But the thing with my son is – I know he can because I’ve seen him go #1 and #2 on the potty – he simply doesn’t care and chooses not to try. Sticker charts, candy, toys, lots of praise – I’ve tried every positive reward system and he still doesn’t care. I don’t necessarily believe in punishing a toddler / preschooler for accidents in their pants… but at what point do you take further action? Anyone have any advice?

When should you start potty training?

My son is 18mo. old he stays dry through the night, tells me when he made poo. Also shows me by signing potty. Pediatrician told me they are ready to potty train when he can “verbally” tell you he needs potty (I’m guessing she is not a big fan of sign language), can pull his pants down by his self & is dry through the night. She said that will be about age 2. I hear of toddlers starting around this age. When he wakes up he will go pee with no fuss.

Does anyone else have a three year old that is not potty trained during the night?

My pediatrician says no to worry unless he does not stop before 5. He will be 4 in October and still fills up a goodnight every night. He can stay dry during a nap though. I do not want some “stop giving him liquids before bed time” speech because it does not make a difference. I just want to make sure that I am not the only one that does not have a toddler potty trained through the night and when I can expect him to be. Thanks.

How do you potty train an older toddler?

My 3 yr old will not poop. He holds it for days and even then resist going. We have put sprinkled Miralax in his drinks, still he is able to hold it. Everything under the sun has been tried to make him understand that it is OK to have a BM. He does NOT want to. Yes we have taken to the pediatrician. (they where not helpful)
Any knowledge on this would be greatly appreciated. Has anyone else been through this?
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