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I do not find them cute at all, and it is no one’s business when a parent disciplines their kids, we were disciplined when we needed it nad no one ever interfered. Just ridiculous, way too much permissiveness these days which is why there are so many murderous violent teens and even younger, no discipline. A woman parked her obnoxious 2 year old or whatever age he was right next to where I was standing in customer service at my market and he proceeded to scream his head off, I lost hearing in my left ear for quite a while and she thought it was funny and encouraged him and laughed.

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It depends on the child, My daughter NEVER I repeat NEVER had a tantrum. She is now 7 and still has not done this, not at home and most deffinantly not outside of the home.

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If you deal with the tantrums the right way at home, then it should be fairly easy to deal with them in public. Ignoring is the right way (as long as the child doesn’t put him/herself in danger) Don’t ever give in to their tantrums because it shows them that they can break you. Be consistent!! Eventually they will just give up and learn that their tantrums don’t work on you and they will stop throwing tantrums.
Consistency is the key!!
Good luck! )

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You did exactly what you should have done: removed him from the situation. He doesn’t understand yet, but when he does, he’ll get the picture quickly: behave, or be taken home. And of course, asking a 13-month-old to “behave” is pretty ineffective…but your consistency will likely pay off in the end.

Temper tantrums early…yep, we’re going through the same thing with our little one! Best of luck!

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My daughter will be 4 in december and I am also pregnant with number 2, she has her little hissy fits daily. When she has one she is made to sit on the couch her toys and tv are taken away/turned off. She is told that throwing tantrums will get her no where and that I don’t like naughty little girls and she will be put outside by herself if she keeps going. The scare tactic normally works for me, if not she is spanked and made to sit on a stool in the middle of the room and told if she moves she will be spanked again. Also she has always been told do not sook….ask for help so its only every once in a while she will have a tantrum because she cant do something herself eg. Turn a toy on.

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I tell parents that the “Terrible twos” start at 16 months. Your little boys behavior is pretty typical. He is having tantrums because his language skills aren’t enough to allow him to “use his words”. It might help his behavior if you get him outside and playing hard. This will help him relieve his frustrations in a more appropriate way. He will improve when he grows up a bit and learns to talk better. Remember, this too shall pass. (deep breath!!)

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Have you tried to just ignore her when she starts a tantrum? Try just walking into another room and dont say a word to her. Sometimes they do this stuff for the attention and when she gets attention from tantrums even if its negative attention she learns that it works. So when she is behaving badly dont give her the attention she is tryn to get. Also maaby you can try to reward her for good behavior some pep think its bad to bribe the kids but hey if it works do it. Make a chart on the wall for each day of the week. And say to her ok if you get 3 stickers you can have an extra bedtime story or sumething she really likes. When she is being good let her put a sticker on her chart but when she starts a tantrum make her take a sticker away.

As for how to help her express her anger try getting her some soft pillows and teach her to hit the pillows when she is mad. She can take the angry inside of her and release it on the pillows.

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The fair housing act does not allow discrimination based upon family or children. However, if your tantrum throwing child causes damage, that could be a different story.

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D is the closest to how we handle tantrums. The best way for me is to tell them that what they are doing is “not OK” and help them to a quiet place away from everyone and where they cannot harm themselves explain to them that they need to stay there until they are “under control” This will teach them that they will not get attention for what they are doing and teach them to get themselves under control all by their selves. They will soon realize that what everyone is doing is much more fun.

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Oh yes, this sounds very familiar. We discovered a great thing to do at home when our normally sweet child falls to the floor and turns into a wailing, back arching howler: Ignore it.

We step over him and carry on. We talk about ANYTHING other than the little person having a total meltdown. We pretend as if it has no effect on us. Guess what? He stopped doing it. It was that simple. The less I intervened the less they occurred.

If our son loses it when we’re out to eat, I take him to the car while my husband gets the food packed up so we can eat at home. This is a phase, it will get better. There are seats that you can take with you that go over the high chair at restaurants. It has shoulder straps and closes up like a carseat with an over the shoulder harness, she can’t wiggle out of it. Check it out: http://www.onestepahead.com/product/85205/210760/117.html

As far as the shopping goes, my son gets strapped into the stroller with a lollipop or fruit snacks, a sippy cup of something fabulous, no getting out. They get to run at the park, not through Macy’s. You practically have to promise to buy them a pony if they let you get one thing accomplished.

I say, “Do one thing with Mommy then we’ll do something for you.” Sure it’s bribery but I’d never get anything done if I didn’t play the give and take game with him. I get to browse the shoe department and he gets to ride the coin operated car at the mall. I get to pick up dry cleaning and produce then he gets a balloon. It’s been quite effective.

Best of luck my dear, it’s a phase. And you can rest assured everyone has been through it. Either they have a child that did it or THEY were the child that did it to their own mother!

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I too have been a professional in this field for years and boy it isn’t easy at all when it is your child.
Ignoring is the best as is rewarding. My daughter was a great one for turning the tears on and sobbing so that even Satan’s heart would melt. She was great at it and it was really hard to ignore, and more so because complete strangers would bunch round and side with her against the ‘devil’ mother. I would have to get very firm and say it was not that she was in need but just having her own form of tantrum. It did stop in the end [although perhaps not!!! ..only joking]
Ignore the negative and reward the positive is the best. The second half being of equal importance to the first. I did once -with an older foster child – copy them like a mirror image which ended in fits of laughter and the realization of how silly and unapproachable we both looked!!! It worked for that child but, as you know, they are all different and so are we!

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My son has them every now and then. When he does I send him to time out and tell him he can get up when he is done. Then I let him throw his tantrum without paying him any more attention. (no matter how much it bugs me). It didn’t take him long to realize that it wasn’t getting him what he wanted, so now if he wants something and I say no he is much more likely to do the puppy dog eyes and poke out the lip (cause it makes me laugh) or hold out his arms and holler kiss kiss. Your child throws tantrums cause they know it gets them attention or their way. You show them there are better ways to get what they want and they will take other routs.

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I had the same problem.. I also think spanking isnt the answer. I did something as simple as walking away. Let him cry and scream and completly ignore him. Tell him he is not going to get whatever it is he wants until he stops crying and behaves like a good boy. Seriously just leave the room, or put him in his room. Right now he knows he will get your full attention by crying and screaming and eveuntally get what he wants. He needs to learn its not gonna work that way. Good luck!

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Hello:

The reason why toddlers throw temper tantrums is because they are usually very frustrated,and they often don’t have the full language skills or ability to tell you why they are angry and upset!

One of the things that I used to do when my daughter was a toddler is I would talk to her in a very understanding way such as,”I can see that you are really mad about something,”and then I would try to get her to tell me in simple words or small phrases why she was angry or upset.

I know that it probably sounds like a really stupid thing to say,but it is true that toddlers aren’t really old enough to express their feelings with words yet,so that is why they hit,bite,scratch,pinch,etc to get their point across! However,with that being said,I have NEVER allowed my daughter to hit ANYONE and get away with it! One time she got mad at me and she smacked me on my arm and in a really loud voice I said to her,”OUCH! It hurts when you hit,we don’t hit people when we are angry!”
Then,I would sit her in a corner,or in a chair for however many minutes her age was for instance 2 minutes for 2 years old,3 minutes for 3 years old,etc…

I would then let her come out of time out when her time was up and I would explain to her that we use our words no matter how small they may be,we don’t hit,bite,pinch,scratch when we are mad! I hope that this has been helpful for you and one last piece of advice that works like a charm is that if your child ever hits another child,IMMEDIATELY comfort,soothe,and show sympathy to the child that was hit by your child,and say something along the lines of,”It wasn’t nice of your friend Jake to hit you was it?”

I know that all of this information probably sounds kind of silly or lame,but I am telling you that if you talk to your child in a CALM voice instead of screaming and yelling at them. Especially when they are on your last nerve,you will be teaching your child that you love them and care about them,and you don’t need to hit them or scream at them to get your point across!

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Generally speaking, children throw temper tantrums because at one time it worked to get them what they wanted. Depending on the situation and the setting, the very best thing to do for a temper tantrum is ignore it and the child and continue on with your business. Keep the child safe as best as possible. Some children will bang their heads on the floor so put a pillow under their head. They may hold their breath, let them. If they pass out (which is rare), then they’ll start breathing naturally again. They will hit you and throw things, so put them in another room. If he breaks his toys, throw them away and don’t replace them. Take advantage of his small size now and physically put him where he is safe and let him have his tantrum. If you are in a public place, be prepared to excuse yourself and leave the room or the building if necessary. If possible, go outside so he can throw his fit in the grass or the snow (depending where you live!). You may have to put him in the car. You may even have to go home if it gets bad enough. Parents just want the tantrum to STOP so they do whatever it takes. In the long run, it is better to wait it out. This is a battle of wills between you and your child and you MUST win this or it will get much worse as he gets older. Don’t try to reason with him or beg or plead or promise him something special if he stops. Some tantrums are born out of frustration, hunger, or being overly tired. If these are triggers for your son, plan ahead for situations that may cause a tantrum. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Say things like, “You may not have a cookie before dinner.” instead of a more open-ended “No cookies before dinner, OK?” The second you ask any kind of question you open it up for discussion. If a situation is not open for discussion do not end your statements with “OK?” or say something like, “You don’t want to spoil your dinner with a cookie, do you?” A strong-willed child is most prone to temper tantrums. So, in the process of ignoring a temper tantrum (no matter how long it takes), if you give in even once to him, he will continue to do them longer and harder the next time. When the tantrum is finished, have some snuggle time with him when he is ready. Tantrums are exhausting for both child and parent. Talk about how much you love him and how he needs to listen to you. Be sweet and simple, but tell him that we don’t always get what we want. He can throw a tantrum if he wants, that is his choice, but it will not work to get what he wants. If you are firm and consistent and never give in, he will stop throwing temper tantrums. It’s hard, but be patient, it will work, but it may take time.

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I am not a doctor, nor am I certified to diagnose your son. But I do notice several similarities to my sons behavior. Austin is on the autism spectrum, and has PDDNOS, I AM NOT saying this is going on with your son, but you should check into having him evaluated. Whatever is causing the behavior can be detected by these types of tests. Just call your pediatrician and explain the situation. Just be sure to have him checked out. Hope this helps and good luck.

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I don’t know why either but this is really normal, I think part of it is a physical resistance as much as an emotional one that comes out as stretching the body backward and flailing body parts – the head included.

I personally let my son hit the floor doing it one time and that was it, he never did it again. We didn’t drop him, but I let him have a tantrum on the tile, and you know what…. They learn quick!

If she can be reasoned with normally, you should tell her when she is calm that if she flings her head around she will get hurt. Try talking to her when she is calm and show her that hitting the floor like that is hard.

If you are worried while she is having a temper tantrum, try ignoring the tantrum, but dragging her to a safer place to have it and then leave her there, walk away and ignore the rest of the tantrum.

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I’ve been going through that with my son since he’s been about 6 weeks old. It tears me apart. When he was about 9 months old he had to have an IV in his foot, then his hand, then his head. They had to use some really stinky glue to get the IV to stick to his head. He was in the hospital forever.

His most recent stay was a few weeks ago (He just turned 2)

Every single time I had to hold him at night for a few nights after we returned home.

I’d get so sick of the nurses when we were in the hospital because I’d just get him to sleep and resting and those B!T{H3$ would go in to take his vitals and wake him up!!!!!

Just hold him and love him because he’s likely frightened. His fear will subside, eventually.