Daughter will go potty at preschool at potty time but won’t go at home, anyone’s house, or on a public toilet.?

She’ll be 4 in July. I’ve tried underwear. She always tells me AFTER she goes and the pee is already running down her leg. I got tired of having to put towels or changing pads on the furniture, car seat, and floor so I put her back in pull ups. She gets so fiesty that she’ll throw a complete tantrum and hit her head on the wall while on the little potty or the porcelain on the big potty while her toddler ring is on the seat so she doesn’t fall in. I should add that she was a preemie and does things at her own pace. I was hoping she’d at least try to start training by now. I never forced this on her since she’s been developmentally delayed since birth and didn’t walk until she was almost 2. Her preschool teachers don’t seem to be concerned, as I’ve shared this with them. They suggested jelly beans or M&M’s…one for trying, two for peeing, and three for pooping. She’s never successfully pooped on the potty. Her 4 year wellness appointment is in July, but I’m thinking about calling the pediatrician now. Your thoughts?
She doesn’t have a bladder problem as she can be dry for hours at a time, go, and then tell me.

Could my son have a developmental problem?

My son is now 3 years old and is still not potty trained. I tried at 2 years, then 2.5 years and he didn’t want to sit on the potty for longer then a minute. Now from the past month, atleast he sits on the potty when I tell him too,. If he has pooped, it may be 1 out of 8 times that he will do it in the toilet. Otherwise it’s always in his pull ups. I even tried underwear for him, but he just wets them all the time instead of telling us he has to go.
Is this a problem, our pediatrician says to wait it out until 4 years before we get worried about potty training, But I do worry when i look at other kids around 2 to 2;5 years already learning. Another thing is my son learned to crawl at 9 months, a little delayed. He took his first itty bitty steps around 13.5 months and then actually walked at 15.5 months. That too was a little late for us because we saw all kids around him at daycare, our friends circle all walking aroung 12 or 13 months. And now he is still not potty trained at 3 years.
I know certain symptoms of ADHD in toddlers is the child wanders and cannot concentrate on one thing fully. I have been trying to notice his behavior more recently and would like to ask if you think it may be a sign? He always tells me to put on Mickey mouse clubhouse in evening and it’s on, he watches it 10 mins, then he looks at what i am doing and talks to me, asks me things. then he wants to play with cars and i tell him i will shut tv off, he says no he is watching it. is this too much at once within a 10 min timeframe or is it normal child behavior?

Need help with my four year old boy, why wont he stop pooping his pants?

I appreciate all answers, and dont want to sound like a know-it-all, but I dont need the typical “maybe he’s constipated?” or “just leave it alone he’ll get the hang of it when he’s ready..” I have tried everything from rewards, charts, prizes, praise, laying off and seeing if he’ll do it on his own eventually….and more recently taking a toy or privilege away (as an alternative way of learning-not punishment) Im well aware that punishment of any kind is known to “backfire” but in my eyes so do the prizes in this case, because if there isn’t a prize waiting for him, that he can hold while hes trying btw=poo immediately in the pants.
This child is one that I’ve nannied for, since he was 10 months, so although Im not his mom….I am with him mon-fri, almost 12 hrs a day, so I feel like his “other mom.” Around the time he turned 15 months he had a new 3 month old brother too! We started training after he had a tiny bit of time to adjust to the baby, and not the other way around. I know some kids have issues when starting to train and then a baby is born. I felt it was too early to start, but mom was so gun-ho and excited I wasnt about to refuse to try it. I want to say around 18 months? decided to “introduce” him to the dreaded potty dance. (I dont mean to sound negative as potty training is supposed to be a life experience and although stressful shouldnt be something that has driven me to the point of utter disgust and insanity.) He started off with the typical toddler curiosity and excitement with his NEW POTTY! I knew he wasnt ready. I knew that its exciting for the child as well as adult to not be in diapers anymore. I also knew that just because an 18 month old can pee a couple times a day on a potty to get a sticker or candy…… does NOT mean he is READY to start this process. When he would poop prior to training, he never showed any sign of discomfort and would actually cry if I tried changing his diaper. If given the chance he would not be phased with sitting in his own doodoo….for as long as possible. Anyways. We did pull-ups for a while…….a while meaning a couple months? These were all moms’s decisions not mine haha! Big boy underwear time!!! Again he was very excited. Keep in mind he was 95 % of the time doing pee, not poop, on the pot. So you can imagine MY excitement the day I came in and got the “good news.” We were always at the house so luckily we had lots of time to practice. No stress on him, gentle reminders every 1/2 hour or so, and any time I saw signs that he might have to poo, Id say it looks like you might have a poop coming yay! Lets grab your (favorite book/toy) and try together!!! “I dont want to.” 5 minutes later im changing his “big boys” and mom has me wash them every time so thats a blast.
Once in a while we’d get lucky, although it would require forcing him to sit (if we knew it was comming.) Like, after some poop had already been pushed into his underwear. Point being, he never, ever WANTED to, and I’d get to the point of bribing just to get him to try. Soon, peeing became the same ordeal too.
To give some credit however, he would have some “good streaks,” where he would seem like he snapped out of it and sometimes would go a whole week with no accidents. These were the times where I would just be fed up and stop caring and just change him every time, no potty talk. I figured it was because he missed getting all the attention with having accidents and nagging reminders, but the next week he’d be back to accidents all day again. Nothing was never consistent.

read over 20 different books. I’ve talked with his pediatrician at doctor visits. I’ve been lead teacher in toddler I & II classrooms, as well as pre-school &pre-k classrooms. I have taken 4 years of early childhood ed. towards my BA degree…….Just stating that I have successfully potty trained kids that were 15 months old, up to 4 or 5 for almost 6 years before nannying for this family. So what am I doing wrong? I know that there needs to be consistency. Mom and I are on the same page, but not the dad. I find out “daddy still let me ride my bike even though i pooped my pants.” Aside from this issue he gives into him as soon as he starts his whining and screaming, with everything.

Now, he is 4 and younger brother is 2.5. The y brother started training in Oct. and sleeps through the night DRY. At first a couple accidents (normal) but has been accident free since then. Also, he poops his pants 6 times a day sometimes, and is on mirilax 2x a day per order of the doc, so he is not constipated. I have tested his behavior with cause-effect stratagies. Most recently, offer small dollar priced prizes, (wrapped in tissue. if he doesnt see anything he likes, he wouldnt bother trying and crap his pants) He all of a sudden was a poop machine, trying to poop every h

Potty training toddlers: Do you use wipes or toilet paper?

Sorry for all the potty training questions….

When potty training your toddler, did you use regular toilet paper to wipe for # 2 or did you use baby wipes?

We’ve tried using toilet paper and honestly…it doesn’t work all that well for his little butt. But baby wipes aren’t flushable (at least the ones we buy?).

So I’m curious, for my 3 yr old son, what would be best? Try to use toilet paper because that’s usually what’s there?

Toilet paper or wipes?
My son has only been potty training for about 3 days. And he tried wiping his butt the other day with toilet paper and it didn’t go well. LOL. So I think maybe flushable wipes are good to start until he gets the hang of it. Then he can go back to toilet paper.

Is it better to wait to potty train toddlers until after the baby comes or before?

I am expecting baby #2 December 29th and have a 19 month old. She seems interested in going potty and has had a bowel movement on the toilet twice (because I set her there when I saw she was going to go). The only reason I am hesitant to train now, is that I have heard when new babies come the toddler can unpotty train themselves. What do you think? Also, should I be casual about the whole thing or be super consistent?

Potty training when toddler prefers to poop standing up?

My son is only 16 months old, so we’re not planning to start potty training anytime real soon, but he is exhibiting a few of the signs of readiness so I know it’s not too far off. The thing is, he always gets into a standing position before pooping. Most other toddlers I know prefer to squat, but my son prefers to stand. Will this make potty training harder for him, or will he easily learn to do it while sitting?